Saturday, January 21, 2012

yes. it's a sickness.

Do you suffer from it too?

I think most of us girls are people pleasers.
It probably starts before we even utter our first words.
It makes us happy to make other people happy.
It feels so good to say yes.
We want to be rock stars.
We want to do all the things we say yes to.
It just feels good to accomplish it all.
To check off all those yes boxes.
yes, yes, yes.

But, oh NO....
it sort of hurts when those boxes start falling on top of you.
Like, sort of crushes you actually.

I've been getting a little crushed lately.
So I'm going to have to fix that.
I'm going to have to say no.

Some of the no's will go to my family.
Some of the nos will go to strangers.
Some will go to my friends.
Those no's are going to hurt.
Some of the no's are going to have to go to me.

Saying no sort-a sucks.
especially when you have to say it to yourself right?
no, you can not do it all- as much as you want to.
no, you can not have your cake and eat it too- well maybe a little.
no, you can not go days without any real sleep.
No, it doesn't make you any less of a person.
No, it doesn't make you a meanie pants.
It makes you A PERSON. One person.

no, it's not the end of the world.


  1. Oh, mama. Learning to say no is TOUGH. I struggle with people pleasing, especially when the things I'm asked are all GOOD things, you know? It's hard to make choices like that. Love ya!

  2. Oh I know exactly how you feel. It's tough. Really tough. I saw a quote the other day "Always be the door, never be the doormat." It's hard to see that line sometimes but when you are feeling beaten down, it's time to start saying now! Keep your chin up and do what you gotta do! :) *hugs*

  3. Definitely had to start saying No this week even though it was rough, I had to do what was best for me.


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