Saturday, May 26, 2012

gossip.

Something weighs so heavy on my mind tonight.
So much so, that I want to sit and cry about it.
So much so, that I'd like to slap a few people.
Hard.
hard enough to wake. them. up.
Instead I sit here and write:
I can not count the number of times that I have been a topic of gossip.
That's fine with me.
Whatevs. really. glad to entertain you
in a
wouldn't you REALLY like to know kind of way.
I'm an adult though. I know who I am. I'm not going to mince words if you ask me,
to my face.
WHAT UPSETS ME is that,
I am starting to forget the number of times I can count that one of my children has been a topic of gossip.
I'm not talking about school house gossip either.
I am talking about adults who gossip about other peoples kids.
Gossip is just that. Gossip.
To an adult who knows who they are, they know it's just gossip.
BUT, to a child who is learning and growing.
It's a little more.
As I sit and type this, my face is hot and mad.
I want to go yell from the rooftops
"what is wrong with you!?"
Why would you gossip about a child?
You are an adult.
You are obviously not a concerned adult either.
Because if you were, the first person you would go talk to is their parent.
MAYBE, if you had done that in the first place, you would actually have your facts straight.
But, instead, you as an adult choose to gossip about a child.
Say things that aren't even remotely true.
Things that you HAVE NO IDEA what you are talking about.
What makes me sad, is if it somehow came back to me,
then it probably in some form has come back to my child.
UNLESS, you see it with your own eyes and hear it with your own ears
how on earth do you know what you are saying is true?
WHY would you even say it?
ANYTHING about a child.
If you are going to be the kind of person who gossips,
for goodness sake, at least keep to the gossip to someone your own age.
Don't you think our children have enough to worry about with kids their own age?
What hurts too, is these people are people who are my neighbors.
People who are friendly to my face.
People I see often.
People who maybe even were once someone I called a friend.
It breaks my heart a little.
I know I can't change the world for my kids.
I know that.
I know that I have to teach them how to deal with the world, how to face it, and to live with a good heart.
I just wish I didn't have to teach them this.
That even adults, gossip about them.
But, that it does not matter.
As long as they know that they are doing their best to be the best they can be.
As long as they know THE TRUTH.
Even if it hurts their feelings. It doesn't matter.
I hope they will learn from it.
And they will treat others how they wish to be treated.
That they learn that gossip is a waste of time.
That they don't waste their time on it.
ever.

7 comments:

  1. People can be bullies, and that doesn't change as they grow older...they just become bigger bullies. And it sucks that our children have to learn that so early in life. I'm sorry for you and your girls.

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  2. Oh, mama. I'm so sorry. Praying for your heart and your littles tonight.

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  3. Dude, those people are stupid. And ugly. And they smell like farts.
    Let bullies be bullies and live in their own misery. The biggest bully I ever had ( and she was a doozie of a bully ) is actually a member of my extended family and from what I hear, she is living a pretty miserable life. I'm not saying I'm glad. I'm just saying, " Ummm, duh! You make the world mean and shitty and that's what your world is gonna be, lady "
    Feelings only get stronger when they are tested. See this as a test that you guys passed with straight A's. Yeah?

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  4. 1 bag sugar
    1 cup HOT water
    1 spray bottle

    Dissolve as much sugar as possible in water. Pour sticky water into spray bottle and liberally spritz mailbox and door handles of gossiper's car (preferably at night)

    Delight in the sticky mess and the fact that you didn't actually damage anything. :)

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    1. OH! I LOVE THIS! :) You should do it!!!!

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  5. Oh goodness, I feel your heartbreak just by reading your post and I want to just reach through this computer and hug you. It's amazing how immature some adults are! I'm praying for you!

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  6. I am catching up on old posts and this makes me sad sad sad :( boo! I'm sorry :( Kids should always be off limits! Always! I learned my gossip lesson a LONG te ago and I am glad! Hugs!

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